Why Women Need Their Own Assets
I was thoroughly inspired by this episode from Girls That Invest. This is one of the first time’s I’ve ever heard someone openly declare that women SHOULD have independent assets from their partner. If they don’t, then their life and partner isn’t really their choice.
I’m noodling on this one as I think of all the stay-at-home wives and moms I know who genuinely believe they are living the life they want, or they are in extenuating circumstances. The guest presents the argument: if they don’t have an easy way to leave, are they really free?
Also watch this video by Priyanka Chopra where she says the same thing.
One thought I had: if a professional wife/mom really loves what she does, perhaps the “bread winning” partner could contribute regularly to a savings account for her. This could be a fantastic way to acknowledge her labor (that she doesn’t get paid for) has value. This would also insure she always has her own resources.
I have a feeling genuinely safe and emotionally healthy male partners would be on board with this! (If your first instinct is that your spouse would NEVER be okay with this, then please reach out to me for a consultation…I’m serious.)
I’m curious what you think about the principle that women should always have their own assets. Let me know in the comments.
Katherine Spearing MA, CTRC is the founder of Tears of Eden, a nonprofit supporting survivors of spiritual abuse and is a Certified Trauma Recovery Practitioner working primarily with clients who have survived cults, high-control environments, spiritual abuse, and sexual abuse. She also provides specialized trauma informed career coaching, as folks with trauma often need extra support for interviewing and networking.
Katherine is the author of a historical romantic comedy, Hartfords, a novel that challenges gender roles in a patriarchal society that will appeal to fans of Jane Austen. Her next book on Spiritual Abuse addresses the survivor’s recovery journey, coming in 2025.
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